jasonssmith
May 1, 2017

Meet the Teacher - The Joy of Parents' Evening

0 comments

Edited: May 2, 2017

 

 

 

When I was a kid, I dreaded parents evenings.

 

As a parent my feelings haven't changed much at all.

 

Don't get me wrong. I haven't heard any stories of how my little boy is the class terror, bringing missery and havoc to teachers and classmates, but there's just some sense of trepidation before I make the short journey to the school and get set to go face to face.

 

My biggest concern is that I get the best out of the meetings, which are ususally very short, so that I can do the best job for my son.

 

I say they're short but sometimes they seem to go on for ever.

 

Over time I've come to the realisation that it's all about preparation, so I now go in with a list of written questions. I don't normally get the list out because by writting them down I find they're far easier to recall from memory. In fact, if I prepare a mind map, I can normally visualise the picture of the map and all the areas I want to discuss branching off from each main theme.

 

The main themes are normally something like this...

  • Academic performance, with focus on English, Maths and Sciences, but covering other subjects too

  • Social skills, including confidence and class/ friend/ teacher interaction

  • Sport and activities, where I want to know about his level of participation and team skills

  • Artistic activities, in music, dance and performing arts as well as craft and art

  • Overall demeanor, how happy is he? Is he interested, participative, keen to learn and well behaved?

  • What are his strengths and where does he need to focus more to improve?

I also make a point of asking to see examples of his work and I seek advice on what I can do as his Dad to help in his development.

 

With this approach I find I get a well rounded view of my son's school life, and I'm able to better focus mine and mum's support in his ongoing development.

 

I'm not saying mine is the best approach, but I do find it helps me to get the most out of the meetings, build a healthy relationship between me and his teachers and help him at home.

 

In short, it works for me.

 

Let me know what works for you.

 

 

New Posts
  • jasonssmith
    Sep 5, 2018

    Back to School

    After a fantastic long and hot English summer, the morning to go back to school has finally arrived. For almost 10 weeks James and I have adventured at theme parks, museums, palaces, zoos and parks. We've visited beaches, towns, cities and the countryside. It's been a blast and I'm going to miss his company during the school day. Today James started Year 5 and this is the point where things start to get a bit more serious as the school and I start preparing him for his 11+ examinations in Year 6. Normally during the summer holidays we have a complete break from school work, but this time I was keen to keep James' mind active by undertaking one hour of Maths, English and/ or reading every day. Of course this was met with some dismay and plenty of procrastination at first, but once the routine was established, he ploughed through it. I'm proud of the way he worked, often going beyond the prescribed one hour period and doing more than required. Will it make a difference? I hope so. But if nothing else, it's established the habit of working outside of the classroom and under his own steam. And that can only be a good thing.
  • jasonssmith
    Feb 8, 2018

    Time Goes and Kids Grow

    I can't believe it's half term already and my son is now half way through Year 4. It only seems like yesterday that I was taking him for his first day of middle school after the long summer break. Time goes by so fast, maybe too fast, but that only makes me realise how important it is to appreciate time and savour all the little moments that occur. I'm so grateful for the life I am now able to lead. Especially having missed all of my son's early school years due to a busy job which involved lots of travel. I am privelleged to be able to see my son grow. Not just physically but mentally and personally. It's wonderful to see him and his friends gaining confidence, learning new skills (including contact rugby!) and developing their characters. And it's wonderful to be there for him in his moments of success and failure to celebrate or suppport him during these formative years. Sometimes I'm asked if I'll go back into the workplace in the form of a full time job. Maybe one day, but for now this is the most important job I can think of. Last Rugby Match of the Season. It's great to be able to get to matches and support my son and his friends .
  • jasonssmith
    Sep 25, 2017

    Are We Doing Too Much?

    We're now well and truly in to the new school year, so much so that Half Term is already fast approaching. Where does the time go? On that theme my son made the transition from lower to middle school this year and with that comes some pretty significant changes. Longer Maths and English lessons, more languages to learn, new subjects such as history and geography but, most impactful, longer school days and more homework. Gone are the days when I would be at the school gates for 3.30 in the afternoon. Now it's typically 5.30 before I scoop him up. Part of the reason is his (and my) enthusiasm for after school clubs. These are held at and provided by the school. So, on Monday it's Debating and Current Affairs, Tuesday it's Football Training followed by Swimming lessons, Chess Club is on Wednesday, followed by club Football Training and on Friday it's Drama. The only day he doesn't have an extended day is Thursday, but then he has Tennis Lessons. And when we finally get home it's supper and homework. With the amount of homework doubling from 20 minutes to 40 minutes per night it doesn't leave time for much else. But I do think it's important to have some 'playtime' before bed, so we'll have a mini football match or some other game that gets us both laughing. Sometimes I worry that we're doing too much, but then he seems happy and if I ask him if he wants to drop any clubs or activies he always gives a resounding "NO!" Let me know what you think and what you do in the comments.