dave_richardson
Apr 21, 2017

Lonely Dads

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So another thing I have experienced is the solitude that comes with being a stay-at-home Dad (I don't like that description much. I prefer primary carer as I think that fits our current situation better but perhaps this is subject for another post!). I totally understand this something that everyone who looks after kids full-time suffers however I think Dads get it worse. I often hear of mums arranging coffee or play dates with each other but this isn't something I'm totally comfortable with getting involved in. Maybe it is just me but I wouldn't feel comfortable spending periods of time with just another woman (and I'm sure my wife wouldn't be too happy). I'm also aware of how it might look. I wonder if other Dads feel the same? I know of another home dad in the area but both his kids are at school so he works in the day. The result is I don't have the same social life a mum would have.

Perhaps there should be a Dads meet-up site where we could get in contact with each other and hang out?

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